We humans have thousands of tedious and ongoing thoughts happening all day. Psychologists have shown that the human mind has over 60,000 thoughts each day and often most of those thoughts are negative. Thank goodness you don’t have to believe all your thoughts! The Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT) roles of Victim, Persecutor, and Rescuer help […]
The emotion of hope is one of the most important and positive emotions available to human beings. When facing difficult times, hope keeps us moving forward. But for many, hope has been especially elusive the last couple of years. Everyone is asking, “Where’s the hope?” In troubling times, it is common to look to the […]
There are two options that describe the way most people work with their fears. The first option is to ignore fear and hope it goes away. Suppressing your fears doesn’t work well because the energy will be stored somewhere in your body, and it usually comes out sideways at another time when you least expect […]
By David Emerald & Donna Zajonc It is not until you hit a deep pothole that you know how essential good roads are to keeping your car in good condition. When you experience a road detour because a bridge needs repair you understand the importance of a healthy infrastructure. You most likely do not stop […]
The month of July hosts several Independence Day celebrations around the world. July 1st was Canada’s Independence Day and the “4th of July” is recognized in the US as the day the states declared their independence from what colonists viewed as a distant tyrannical king. The global disruption is showing the world that freedom exists, […]
There is a part of all of us that wants to be a star. Whether you secretly wish for your “star moment” or you are intentionally pursuing a starring role at work or in the movies, part of human nature yearns to be special. It is your healthy ego that wants to express your individual […]
Human beings are wired to connect and have a natural desire to be in positive relationships with others. But relationships are not always goodness and light. Whether at home or work, even the most trusting relationships go through breakdowns and difficult stretches. I (Donna) was recently speaking with someone whom I coached over ten years […]
Remember a time when you got a new car and suddenly you noticed cars like yours everywhere? You had never noticed it before, but now there’s so many! Your attention creates your reality. What you focus on acts like a mirror and reflects back to you what you project. Last week’s blog was about […]
Have you ever stepped back and reflected on the tone and quality of the conversations you have with coworkers, friends, or family members? A few years ago (pre-pandemic), I (David) was waiting in line to board a plane and overheard two people complaining about “this person and that manager.” They obviously worked together and had […]
A young man was troubled that his wife was in a toxic relationship with a co-worker and wanted to be helpful by offering advice. He sought the wisdom of his grandmother, who was retired as the executive director of a large non-profit organization. He described the situation and then asked her, “Grandmother, I have some […]
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